I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding?
I accepted and we talked about plans etc. I bought the dress and was having it altered because I was 5 mo. pregant when the wedding was to take place. I planned her couples shower, already sent out invitations etc for everything. I was helping as much as I could. About 3 wks before the wedding her sister called and asked and if I would be a designated driver if they rented a van, and I said No because I could not stay out until 4am. I told her I would like to meet them and asked what time and where they were going. She said she would let me know. Since the bride is my neighbor I saw them all leave to go out on a Sat. I called the bride and she did not answer, called her sis and she said she we already left and wouldnt tell me where. Next day I called the bride and said I was hurt and she told me she did not know I called, (they were in the same car.) She acted like she did not know anything about the party even though I saw them all leave from her house? What do you think
4. August 2009 at 3:46 am
Thats crap ! I would be PISSED !!! Well, now there is nothin you can do about the dress, but I would tell her off and make sure you stay away from her.
5. August 2009 at 6:13 am
that she (the bride) is a B I T C H!!! Id dump it all back at her and say ya know what…. SCRU YOU AND YOUR WEDDING>>> I HOPE YOU GET DIVORCED!
6. August 2009 at 10:12 am
Oh, this is tricky. If the sister planned the party to be a surprise, then the bride really might not have known about it. And if she was in the back of the van while the sis was in the front, then she really might not have known you called. There’s enough unknowns here that I don’t think you should overreact with the bride until you have more information. Also, keep in mind that the bride is not responsible for planning her bachelorette party (that is what you’re talking about, isn’t it?). The person who really did something wrong was that sister. I’d definately confront her.
If the bride really is partially responsible for ditching you, then you have to decide if you want to stand up in the wedding. Keep in mind, though, that backing out will ruin your friendship with her for good.
8. August 2009 at 1:15 pm
I would say dont let it bother you. If you let her know that you really wanted to spend time with her at the party and that your feelings were hurt that you werent invited, that is all you pretty much can do. People know when they are wrong. ONce you stated your peace, pretty much it will be up to that person to see their own ways.
If you feel this is a big enough issue to lose a firendship over, than explain that to her as well. They could have been hurt, but to be honest, those who have never been pregnant before really have no idea what you can and cannot handle. To be out until 4 am is totally out of the question for not only your health, but that of the baby as well. Also, to chauffer them around to smoky bar after smoky bar isnt good either.
Trust your intutition. if you feel that you can still be friends, so it. you wont be pg for long!
10. August 2009 at 10:43 am
She is being childish and immature. I don’t know when the wedding is, but if she still wants you in you will get a call-she’s really just being a bridezilla. If being in the wedding falls apart you can send her a bill for your troubles.
11. August 2009 at 8:15 am
Don’t stoop to their level. This happens all the time between bridesmaides. Just let it go, they are trying to agitate you.
12. August 2009 at 7:39 am
Lack of human decency on the bride’s part as well as her sister’s part…I would little or nothing to do with either until and apology was delivered. You can’t get back a missed special occasion, you were robbed of that experience. I would attend the wedding ONLY because the dress has been purchased, BUT the reception is a different story. Stick around for pictures and then bow out of the reception. The sister was upset because you weren’t available til the wee hours in the morning driving them around, so she shouldn’t be upset if you were not there for the reception
12. August 2009 at 4:04 pm
What do I think? I think that she was avoiding you and was probably a little upset with you that you wouldn’t drive. I don’t think that her feelings are justified as it’s not fair to be upset with someone for not being able to perform a difficult favour.
It’s in the past, so it’s up to you to decide if you want to carry this around with you forever, or just move on. Good luck to you.
14. August 2009 at 2:29 am
Have a serious talk with the bride and find out what happened. Let her know how you feel about the situation.
15. August 2009 at 1:44 pm
I think the bride is being a “bitch” and you don’t need that. Concentrate on the exciting things going on in your right now. Seems to me all the bride is thinking about is herslef.